So you are at work and a passing comment from a colleague triggers a reaction in you that keeps distracting you for the rest of the day. You don’t like it. You feel put down and confused. As the day goes on you feel stuck and you are not sure why the comment is eating away at you. After all, you are bigger than this…so what is going on and what can you do about it?
One problem when addressing perceived conflict, especially interpersonal conflict, is that trust has already been broken and often we have acquired resistance to fixing the problem.
I recently had a disappointing situation with a colleague that left me feeling de-energised and devalued. At one level I did not want to talk to him about it but realised that we would need to continue working together and that I needed to clear the air.